I started doing this tag about 2 weeks back  and didn’t publish it. Saw this in the Draft’s today and thought I might as well finish it and publish it. Am probably the last mama in the blogosphere to be doing this.

So as the rules go,I need to put up the badge, write out five lessons that Mommyhood taught me . And tag five mommybloggers.(no point coz I cant think of anybody who has not done this)

  1. Reality check-I had BB after almost 4.5 years of marriage and constant arguments with the hubby. I wanted a kid and he didn’t.Finally PP gave in and my pregnancy days were the best days of my life. After BB was born,I went into a frenzy trying hard to become a perfect mom. I had this misguided perception of myself as the perfect mom who has oodles of patience , love and strength. I guess I had built up this image in my head over the years of yearning for a baby.Motherhood was a reality check for me.As I struggled to cope with the actual realities of having a baby,I lost my patience at various stages. I realized that giving birth to a baby does not automatically turn on a tap which will cause the patience,strength and wisdom to flow when needed. I realized over time that I am no prefect mom.I also learnt that it is Ok to not be a prefect mom.
  2. Letting go of my inhibitions-Before BB was born, I don’t ever remembering singing as I went about my work at home.I don’t think the in-laws even knew that I love dancing . But having a child changed all that.Entertaining a little kid(more so as we hardly let BB watch any TV) also requires some amount of skill.So as the son grew, I slowly let go of my inhibitions.Making funny faces to hear the joyful peals of laughter from the 8 month old son, singing lullabies to get him to sleep, mimicking a lion, dog, sheep,donkey train, plane…. as we introduced him to these new things,singing to calm down the cranky toddler,dancing together on a relaxed Saturday morning to the our favourite party number has changed me as a person. Today I sing as I go about my work, am willing to play cricket and football(albeit clumsily) in the playground with my son and break into a jig without a second thought when I hear the Waka Waka song on TV.
  3. Living in the moment – Be it dealing with a tantrum,smiling proudly as I hear my little son sing Jana Gana Mana,watching him in frustration as he happily spreads out the neatly folder laundry or watching him unhappily as the little fellow cries his heart out on his second day alone in the school van,  I know that this is just  passing moment. The next moment will bring its own share of joys, hair tearing frustration,anger or heartbreak. And I have learnt to deal with each moment and move on.
  4. Learning to appreciate the hubby – For someone who didn’t want a baby, PP is the most adorable and loving father. From a father who refused to pick up and hold his son on the first day to someone who can take care of all of BB’s needs (including the usually mom specific task of bum wash),PP has come a long way.BB shares a special relationship with his father. We do have our little moments of family bonding and mother-son bonding.But all of BB’s waking hours are spent shadowing his father around the house. And I know that this special relationship has grown largely due to PP’s immense patience while dealing with the little one.
  5. Letting go – From being a mother of a 5 month old who cried and cried if he didn’t see me for more than 15 minutes to being the mother of a 2.5 year old who didn’t cry even once and ask for me when I was away in Germany for 2 weeks, I have learnt to deal with letting go.Learnt to accept that even though my life revolves largely around my son’s life, his life does not necessarily revolve around mine.